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What is Domestic Violence?

Domestic violence is behavior - emotional, psychological, physical, or sexual abuse - that one person in an intimate relationship uses in order to control the other.

It takes many different forms and includes behavior such as threats, name-calling, isolation, withholding of money, actual or threatened physical harm and sexual assault. Statistically, most domestic violence is committed against women by their male partners. It also occurs in lesbian and gay relationships and is common in teenage dating relationships.

The following checklist may help you decide if you or someone you know is being abused.

Does your partner:

  • constantly criticize you and your abilities as a spouse or partner, parent or employee?     
  • behave in an over-protective manner or become extremely jealous?      
  • threaten to hurt you, your children, pets, family members, friends or himself?      
  • prevent you from seeing family or friends?    
  • get suddenly angry or "lose his temper"?    
  • destroy personal property or throw things around?    
  • deny you access to family assets like bank accounts, credit cards, or the car, or control all finances and force you to account for what you spend?    
  • use intimidation or manipulation to control you or your children? hit, punch, slap, kick, shove, choke or bite you?    
  • prevent you from going where you want to, when you want to, and with whomever you want to?    
  • make you have sex when you don't want to or do things sexually that you don't want to do?    
  • humiliate or embarrass you in front of other people?    

Answering "yes" to any of these questions could be an indicator of domestic violence. You are not to blame and you are not alone - domestic violence is unfortunately a common crime. Although not all acts of domestic violence are violations of the law, you need not face domestic violence alone.

You deserve help, and help is available.


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